GOTHAMIST: Survey Shows Women Paying 'Pink Tax' To Avoid Sexual Harassment On The Subway

Myriad different factors make the New York City subway a very gross place, chief among them the outsized possibility that—especially if you identify or present as a womansome skeevy stranger will eventually masturbate at you. Psychological implications aside, sexual harassment comes with a financial cost; a "pink tax" on transportation as women pay more for safer ways to get from point A to point B.

Pink taxes are the added fees tacked onto "for women" products: The way a razor costs more when marketed to women than it does when tailored to men, for example. Researchers at the NYU Rudin Center for transportation did not set out with the specific intention of examining the public transit pink tax in their new survey. Rather, as Sarah Kaufman—the Rudin Center's associate director, an adjunct assistant professor in urban planning, and one of the survey's authors—told Gothamist, they wanted to explore how the types of behaviors addressed by the #MeToo movement "play out on a day-to-day basis on public transportation."

What they found, however, is that some New York women could be paying as much as $1,200 extra every year in order to move safely around the city.

Researchers successfully surveyed a total of 547 people, 52 percent of whom identified as women (by which the authors mean cis and trans women, as well as femmes). Of those respondents, 75 percent said they had experienced harassment and/or theft on public transportation, versus 47 percent of male participants. The majority (86 percent) of harassment incidents occurred within the subway system, and 54 percent of women respondents worried about harassment compared to 20 percent of men. Those safety concerns drove 42 percent of participants toward for-hire vehicles (Uber, Lyft) for late night travel, while 16 percent opted for taxis and 15 percent stuck with public transportation. Notably, over three quarters of people who used taxis and people who called cars identified as women.

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Survey shows Women paying 'Pink Tax' by Claire Lampen

Nov 13th, 2018

COUNTER PUNCH: It’s Time to Decriminalize Sex Work

Two New York City Democratic Socialist were overwhelmingly victorious in the November 6th elections – Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez for the U.S. House for the 14th District (Bronx-Queens) and Julia Salazar’s for 18th District (Brooklyn) of the New York State Senate.

Going mostly unreported, Salazar called for the decriminalization of sex work. “Sex workers are workers and they deserve to be treated with dignity, including protections and decent working conditions, rather than the abuse and criminalization that they currently face,” Salazar said.  She added, “I’m dedicated to defending workers’ rights, reforming our criminal justice system and ending exploitation, and we know that criminalization puts everyone in sex work at risk rather than protecting them.”

Another Brooklyn candidate, Suraj Patel, lost to 13-term incumbent Carolyn Maloney in the recent Congressional primary, but he met with members of GLITS, an organization serving transgender sex workers.  “To me, this issue [of sex work] is wrapped up in the whole discussion of how prior generations of politicians in both parties—who need to go—really have only one tool in their tool kit when it comes to criminal justice, and that’s a hammer,” he said.  And added, “They can’t think outside the box about prevention and building healthier communities that have more economic opportunities for people. It’s always about criminalization.”


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It's Time to Decriminalize Sex Work by David Rosen

Nov. 9th, 2018

SLATE: It’s Time to Recenter Kink and BDSM as Part of Radical Queer History

This piece is part of the Radical issue, a special package from Outward, Slate’s home for coverage of LGBTQ life, thought, and culture. Read more here.

When we celebrate queer history, we’re usually thinking about the elders who came before us and the sacrifices that they made to ensure that future generations wouldn’t have to go through the same hardships that they did. By remembering their radical calls for acceptance and civil rights, we’re really thinking about action-oriented activism. But in doing so, we leave out the importance of the practice of kink and BDSM, which are radical acts in their own right. It’s time to correct this, to include and center kink as a valid part of queer history—because without it, we are erasing an essential part of our heritage.

Kink has been somewhat mainstreamed in recent years by films, books, and popular media (ahem, Fifty Shades) that speak to only one part of what it means to be in the lifestyle. But what exactly makes kink radical? There’s a taboo around discussing sex and sexuality in our culture still, and it is especially seen as taboo for queer people, who have been ostracized and outcast for not falling into heteronormative expectations of how we should love and form relationships. Many kink and BDSM (an acronym standing for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism) subcultures were formed in response to individuals’ desire to fight against these expectations. These were often some of the few spaces where queer people, before civil rights efforts had gained any ground, could form relationships that existed outside of shame and build their own communities.

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It's Time to Recenter Kink and BDSM as a Part of Radical Queer History by Cameron Glover

November 7, 2018

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DAZED: Lessons from Annie Sprinkle, the radical sex positive educator of 1980s NYC

In mid-1980s New York, a resident in the apartment building of 90 Lexington Avenue knocked on the door of flat 11F and exclaimed “What are you doing in there? I know you’re having sex, but my god it sounds incredible! How do you do it?” Annie Sprinkle (sex positivity educator, porn star, sex worker, and above all prodigious sex artist) opened the door and told him about her apartment-cum-centre for sex activists, sex education, and filmmaking: the Sprinkle Salon, dubbed by the artist herself as the Andy Warhol Factory equivalent of sex art. “I was really into art and sexual politics”, explains Sprinkle, ”so the Sprinkle Salon was a reflection of my curiosity and creativity, just as the Factory was an extension of Warhol’s. There just weren't other places at the time where you could go to learn about sex and be freely sexually expressive, so we started my space.”

From 1980-94, the Sprinkle Salon was a spiritual and physical extension of Sprinkle’s identity. Her radicalism was translated into fetish, tattoo, and body modification parties, while her pledge to sexual positivity emulated in female empowerment sex classes like Sluts and Goddesses (where she used sexual costuming as a tool for women to explore their inner slut and goddess), and her role as a leader in the sex industry was equally translated into sex worker rights groups like PONY (Prostitutes Of New York) and porn support groups like Club 90. Above all, the Sprinkle Salon was a central point for New York’s underground sexual rebellion and a place to push the revolution into the rights of fetishists, porn stars, and sex workers.

Below, Sprinkle takes us on a journey through the 14 year run of the Sprinkle Salon to give us life lessons on how to openly embrace and explore sex.


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Lessons from Annie Sprinkle the radical sex-positive educator of 1980s New York by Lexi Manatakis

Nov. 7th, 2018

DAILY BEAST: The Kink and Tattoo Artists Letting Their Freak Flags Fly for Sex Workers’ Rights

In April, a mashup of two bills, SESTA and FOSTA, was signed into law. SESTA/FOSTA aimed to combat sex trafficking online. But according to many sex working people and community advocates, as well as sex trafficking survivors, the law has already begun to put people in peril by limiting access to safety resources, work, and community. Already, websites that were used to screen dates, find clients, and share resources have self-censored and shuttered, forcing workers onto the streets and into potentially exploitative situations.

Lysistrata Mutual Care Collective & Fund, an emergency fund that provides financial resources to sex workers in crisis, experienced a “huge flurry of requests” in the wake of SESTA/FOSTA’s passage. Cora Colt, the co-founder and acting treasurer of the fund, told the Daily Beast that although the law does not fully go into effect until the new year, “the amount of instability they’ve managed to create from what measures online platforms have already taken voluntarily paints a bleak picture for the hardships workers will be experiencing when we start finding out how far this administration is going to take this very dangerous constitutional loophole they’ve created for themselves.” Lysistrata MCCF currently offers emergency assistance in amounts of $50 to $200, and has provided funds to “around 80 individuals” since March.

“The harm SESTA/FOSTA is causing is being exacerbated by increases in discrimination and violence, cutting of health/social services and benefits, and increased powers given to law and immigration enforcement,” Colt continued. “What this combination of factors is very literally doing is forcing people into the industry out of desperation, taking away what safety networks might have been available to them and pushing them out of indoor living and working spaces onto the street where workers are being assaulted, trafficked, pimped, murdered and arrested in staggering numbers compared to previous years (the majority of these deaths that I know of have been trans women of color).”


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Kink And Tattoo Artist Letting Their Freak Flags Fly For Sex Workers' Rights by Amy Zimmerman

November 6, 1028

PACIFIC STANDARD: How the fight for Sex Workers' rights can put Sex Workers first

"Nothing about us without us" became the slogan of the disability rights movement in the 1990s, but the message continues to reverberate today—particularly with sex workers. There have increasingly been calls, especially within progressive and socialist circles in the United States, to reform the criminal justice system's approach to penalizing prostitution. Politicians like Julia Salazar, a Democratic Socialists of America-backed candidate for the New York State Senate, are pushing for sex workers to be fined rather than arrested, while others like former President Jimmy Carter have advanced what's known as the "Swedish" or "Nordic" model of targeting managers and customers. But according to sex workers themselves, none of those reforms adequately address the challenges they face.

In their new book, Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers' Rights, United Kingdom-based sex workers and activists Juno Mac and Molly Smith examine the global fight for sex workers' rights. Relying primarily on testimony from sex workers—and taking seriously that it is work—Mac and Smith critically examine various regimes governing prostitution around the world, including those in Sweden, Norway, and the Netherlands. They find that, while such models are better than the extreme criminalization common in most of the U.S., those regimes still push sex workers further into the margins. Revolting Prostitutes compellingly argues that true supporters of sex workers' rights must put the voices, experiences, and welfare of sex workers first. In other words: Nothing about them without them.

Pacific Standard interviewed Smith and Mac about Revolting Prostitutes, the fight for sex workers' rights, and how so many people have gotten it so wrong. As with their book, they wrote their responses collectively.

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How the fight for Sex Workers' rights can put Sex Workers first by Arvind Dilawar

Nov. 2nd, 2018

ROLLING STONE: Republicans and Democrats Are Also Divided on Sexual Fantasies

They say politics make strange bedfellows, but apparently politics also play a role in what and who we fantasize about in bed.

Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, wrote a piece for Politico citing data from “the largest and most comprehensive survey of sexual fantasies ever conducted in the United States” that shows that Republicans and Democrats are turned on by different fantasies.

While both parties reported they fantasize at the same rate — several times a week — the themes of those fantasies were divided along party lines. Republicans tended to prefer fantasizing about sex outside of marriage: “things like infidelity, orgies and partner swapping, from 70s-style ‘key parties’ to modern-day forms of swinging,” Lehmiller wrote. Republicans also reported more voyeuristic fantasies like going to a strip club or watching one’s partner have sex with another person.

Democrats, on the other hand, were more likely to favor fantasies that included domination and power dynamics, including BDSM. According to Lehmiller, “The largest Democrat-Republican divide on the BDSM spectrum was in masochism, which involves deriving pleasure from the experience of pain.”

To explain why the political parties differ so vastly in their sexual tastes, Lehmiller looked to each party’s values. He wrote that we fantasize about forbidden fruit, that which we cannot have. So Democrats value equality, and domination and submission seem antithetical to those values, making them forbidden and therefore ripe grounds for fantasy. Since Republicans value sex within the bonds of marriage and single partner sex, the idea of multiple partners and infidelity turns them on.

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Republicans and Democrats are also divided on Sexual Fantasies by Peter Wade

Oct. 28th, 2018

THE DAILY DOT: What it really means to be in a dominant/submissive relationship

When it comes to understanding BDSM, non-practitioners generally equate the kinky lifestyle with the chains, ropes, whips, and handcuffs found in Christian Grey’s “red room of pain” in Fifty Shades of Grey. And among the different elements included in the BDSM portmanteau (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism), the middle portion (a dom sub relationship) may be the most difficult to understand for those outside the kink community.

Often equated with sadism and masochism (SM), dominance and submission plays with the concepts of power and control rather than physical sensation. In a Dominant/submissive, aka Dom/sub or simply D/s, relationship, the power dynamic between the participants is the kink. Essentially, the person in the dominant role takes partial or total control over the person in the submissive role.

While the D/s relationship can be physical and/or sexually intimate, physical contact is not necessary for domination and submission, which may be conducted digitally or over the phone as well. For example, financial domination (findom) doesn’t require any physical contact, just monetary transactions. There is no singular way to be in a D/s relationship. People in D/s relationships can also be romantically involved with one another or not, monogamous or not (as in polyamorous or open), and of any gender or sexuality.

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What it really means to be in a Dominant/submissive relationship by Tiffany Diane Tso

Oct. 28th, 2018


On October 21, the New York Times outlined the Trump administration’s latest attempt to redefine gender as “a biological, immutable condition determined by genitalia at birth.” The memo was rightfully met with fear, horror, and fury by intersex and transgender (including nonbinary) folks across the country. Since then, the U.S. Justice Department has informed the Supreme Court that civil-rights laws don’t protect workers from gender-based discrimination—or, put another way, that it’s legal to fire trans employees for being trans.

In times like these, it can be hard for cisgender folks to react without appearing patronizing, performative, or complacent. And trans folks often disagree on the best ways for allies to show support. Some say that voting is paramount, while others dismiss politics as ineffective. Some collect donations for national trans-rights organizations, while others prefer donating to individuals.

While it’s okay to indulge in these arguments, any action taken is better than standing idly by. Don’t know where to start? Here are six ways to support trans, intersex, and nonbinary folks in your community and across the country:


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How to support Trans, Intersex, and Nonbinary folks by Molly Woodstock

Oct, 26th, 2018

AWT: The Feminist’s Guide to Sex Toys

I did not own a sex toy until I was in my late twenties. By that point, I’d had multiple sexual partners and a few meaningful long-term relationships. I had already moved countries, adapted to different cultures, and had a child. But I had yet to discover the treasure island that was my own body.

I remember the first time I stepped into a sex shop—Good Vibrations in Coolidge Corner, Boston. The salesperson tried to engage me, but I wanted none of it. It was bad enough that I was there—to need this “electronic device” that was supposed to help me figure out my sex life. I grabbed the simplest looking slim vibe (it looked like a candlestick with a dial at the bottom) and dashed out of there as though I had done something wrong.

But I returned soon after. My little helper had sparked a curiosity about my body like never before. This time around, I ventured to the bookshelves, hoping for some reading material to help me understand my body, pleasure, and sex in general. There were some—not as many as there are today—but enough to convert the experience of purchasing a sex toy into one that I actively pursued with confidence instead of one that was pressured by shame. I learned about foreplay, the slick gift that is the lubricant, the different forms of barriers, and all the novelties that would help send my body and spirit up into heavenly bliss while I sprawled so beautifully and comfortably in the privacy of my own bed.

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The Feminist's Guide to Sex Toys by Sid Azmi

Oct. 26th, 2018