The Maneaters of Gynos: A Dark Fantasy Erotica

by M.L. Paige

The Golden Rooster Company, that’s what they called themselves. It was a cheap joke–standard fare for Asher, really–but to the surprise of all three of them it caught on with the local mercs and the generals and even the nobles. No one could believe when, at a raucous stag party celebrating the engagement of Lord Rayneth’s nephew, the Lord himself had leaned in close to Edsere and asked in a liquored whisper if he had a golden cock. As Edsere told it, the Lord giggled–actually giggled–and dangled his pinkie suggestively.

“I feel bad for the sad cunt if that’s all he’s got for a pecker,” Sahvin had said, sulking that the Lord had confided in Edsere and not himself.

“You hush up,” Edsere had replied. “If anyone hears you he’ll have your head.”

Asher grabbed at Sahvin’s crotch. “From what I’ve seen of it, I’d rather have the pinkie,” he said with a snicker.

In a way it seemed inevitable that The Golden Rooster Company would be embraced by Lord Rayneth and the rest of his cronies in the Kingdom of Virfortis. After all, Lord Rayneth was responsible for revitalizing the kingdom’s economy using one of the oldest tricks in the book–slavery–and The Golden Rooster Company was exceptionally good at scouting rural villages and secluded hamlets for so-called “human capital” to bring into Virfortis.

The Company divided their targets into two categories. The first category (and also the largest) was comprised of what Edsere had dubbed “Snoozer” towns. These were full of homely peasants offering little true value, most of them older than younger, and the plan for these peasants was for the men to be conscripted into military service as frontline fodder while the women were put to work on domestic duties. Couples were given bare lodgings and the illusion of freedom, which kept them complacent enough to prevent a revolution.

The other category was far more exciting to Edsere and the rest of The Golden Rooster Company, and no doubt to Lord Rayneth himself. These were called “Sleeper” towns, named for the abundant value these places had sleeping beneath their surface in the form of gorgeous young women. These women were captured, broken, trained, and then put on the slaver’s market where they were often snatched up by a wealthy noble looking for some excitement in his life. Some met a more public fate as “Comfort Stations” for Virfortis’s military and others were kept like animals to be rented out to the lower–and far more brusque–classes of the kingdom. Failure to bring in coin for the kingdom resulted in public punishment meant to not only humiliate the slave but to also advertise the slaver’s wares to whomever might be watching.

All three members of The Company had spent many a night with slaves whose capture they had facilitated and it never ceased to amaze Edsere just how malleable they were. Stunning, resilient women who spat and swore and promised that they would bite off Edsere’s cock the moment he tried to put it between their lips became in time eager creatures who threw themselves at his crotch like starving dogs hunting for a bone and who begged feverishly to suckle on his balls moments after he’d emptied days’ worth of seed down their throats.

It was enough to convince Edsere that maybe this was the intended order of things, the path set forth by some great creator in the stars above, and all that he and Asher and Sahvin were doing were righting the aberrations of nature. After a few years as part of The Company he began to think perhaps these women actually preferred being slaves, that life was easier for them without harsh winters, dwindling food supplies, and the constant threat of invasion to worry about. Now it came down to a simple focus on the cocks and pussies and lips and assholes of those with enough coin to claim them.

And judging by how often Asher and Sahvin frequented the slaver’s stables, his companions didn’t disagree.

A straight two weeks of storms had just passed through Virfortis when Lord Rayneth summoned The Golden Rooster Company to his private quarters, the four men left alone at the top of the kingdom’s tallest tower with enough wine to wet an army. The Lord poured his guests heavy glasses without asking, something Edsere knew to mean an unpleasant request was on the way.

“So,” said Lord Rayneth, swirling a glass of almost purple liquid. “I assume you’ve heard about what happened at the stables.”

Edsere had. A freak bolt of lightning from the storm had toppled a grain store adjacent to the stables, causing a waterfall of stones each heavier than a man to collapse down onto the stable’s eastern wing. Almost three dozen rental slaves were killed, along with two slavers who had decided to take advantage of the storm’s calamity to enjoy the slaves for themselves.

“It was a real shame,” said Asher with a face puckered from how tannic the wine was.

“A shame?” asked a drunken Lord Rayneth. He made a sound somewhere between a laugh and a snort. “The ‘real shame’ here is that those rentals bring in more revenue than half the bloody kingdom does! If those holes could talk, they’d be able to name every cock from here to Princeps.”

“I mean, one of their holes can talk,” Asher said. “Well, used to be able to…”

“Shhh,” hissed Sahvin, smacking Asher in the head. “The Lord is speaking.”

Edsere tried to push past Asher’s idiocy. He addressed Lord Rayneth: “My Lord, you know matters of the economy far better than we do. But we know scouting. May I assume you’ve called us here to help–” Here Edsere struggled for the most tasteful word to use. “–mitigate the damages?”

A languid smile curdled across the Lord’s ruddy face. “I’ve always liked you Edsere,” he said, contemplating his wine. At this, Sahvin shot Edsere an envious glance. “I mean, you’re no noble–not even close–but you are a businessman and you have a way of cutting through the fog. Yes, I would like you and the rest of The Golden Rooster Company to replenish the stock we’ve lost in the storm.”

“As you wish My Lord,” said Edsere. “I actually have a pla–”

Lord Rayneth cut him off: “I also think that as a businessman you will appreciate that I want to use this replenishment as an opportunity to diversify our stock.”

“My Lord?” asked a wary Sahvin, raising one of his pale golden eyebrows high on his forehead.

“The people are growing bored of the same pussies,” slurred Lord Rayneth. “Profits are down. Complaints are up. Simply put, the men of Virfortis want something different to stick their dicks into. That’s why I’m sending you to Gynos.”

Gynos. Edsere had never been before–hell, none of The Company had ever been before–but they’d all heard tales of that land. Fertile fields and rolling hills, majestic mountains capped with snow that pierced the ever-blue skies. In Gynos it was said you could drink any water without worry, even the smallest streams, and that the meat and milk tasted fresher than anything available in Virfortis. The women were also rumored to be exotic and pure, with golden manes of hair and eyes like precious gems. Edsere had heard jokes and rumors in the backrooms of Virfortis pubs that even a Gynos woman’s piss tasted like the sweetest ale.

But to scout such a place without ever having been there? Edsere was worried. Who knew what unknown defenses Gynos had, what protections were in place to keep outsiders away?

“My Lord,” said Edsere. “Gynos is unknown to us. Gynos to almost unknown to everyone in Virfortis, in fact. This will be a difficult venture for sure.”

Lord Rayneth waved away Edsere’s concerns. “I know Edsere, I am no fool. That is why I am going to pay you fifty times the regular rate.”

“Fifteen times?” asked Asher, blinking in disbelief.

“No,” said Lord Rayneth. “Fifty. Five-Zero.”

The entire Company was silent.

“Ah now that shut up your concerns didn’t it,” mused Lord Rayneth.

“It is a lot of money,” said a still stunned Sahvin.

“I suppose it is to you, isn’t it?” asked Lord Rayneth, laughing. “But if I’m right–and I am always right–then the slaves of Gynos will usher in a new era for Virfortis. We’ll be entertaining visitors from across the seas, welcoming their most esteemed and most famed into new brothels that are nothing like anyone has ever seen. And with those proceeds you lot can hire a hundred more of golden cocks to help you go snatching up cunts from every corner of the world. We’ll have a zoo of holes for the fucking, a museum of every shade and size and style of pussy, and that will be the powder keg that launches Virfortis from Kingdom to Empire. Just you wait.”

“Fifty times the regular rate,” said Asher still in disbelief.

“We humbly accept your request,” said Edsere. He was dizzy at not just the thought of what he could do with the coin but what he could accomplish with a hundred more members of The Golden Rooster Company. They could be a business proper, forming contracts with multiple kingdoms, trading goods as supply and demand warranted. Edsere might even wind up as a Lord himself one day, sitting in a tall garish tower dictating his requests to a bunch of hapless hopefuls.

The possibilities seemed endless.

“Of course you accept,” said a laughing, coughing Lord Rayneth. He shook his head. “I really do like you Edsere. Now, go out and get me some Gynos pussy.”


Bewitched & Betwixt: A Fantasy Femdom Story

by M.L. Paige

There are magicks in the world, believe you me. Not all that fireball, wall of water, sparks flying nonsense–those are just silly children's stories–but magicks in the form of lurking tendrils under existence, forbidden truths that challenge the very nature of what we assume must be. You're laughing, snickering under your breath and hey, that's alright. I was like you once.

Then I crossed paths with a Witch.

Let me back up a bit. She wasn't really a witch-witch–no hook nose, no emerald skin, no broom–but that’s what she called herself. I guess Sorceress would fit too, as would Shaman, as would probably a dozen other names I don’t even know. Whatever you call her though, Plumeria was something I sure as hell had never encountered before. Perhaps if I had I would've been a bit more respectful, or at least not as goddamn stupid. But what can you do? Hindsight, 20/20, blah blah blah.

I'd first spotted her at a tequila bar down in the Lower East Side, one of those faux-Cuban spaces slathered in sea green and peach that plays grating Latin music and always has its lights on too bright. I was drunk and alone, but the night had started quite the opposite with me starkly sober and joined by a meal-ticket date who I told to go fuck herself when she tried to order her third glass of Don Julio Real. As soon as she was gone the Reals began to flow again and somewhere in that agave cacophony is when Plumeria showed up.

She was a phantom with hips, all funereal in her black flowy anti-summer dress with eyes like volcanic stone and skin so creamy that the harsh bar lights made her veins show through. She was alone too, but cast a field around her so that she suffered none of the elbow bumping and loud talking that I did. Instead she was free to arch over her liquor, taking sips with lacquered crimson lips as if she were merely wetting her mouth with the tequila instead of drinking it.

Plumeria was one of those women who looked tall but just had stunning posture (as opposed to me with my six feet and change and my perpetual slump). It made it impossible to look anywhere else in the bar and before long Plumeria caught me trying catch her eye and stared me down with an impish little smile until I looked away.

A minute later a glass arrived before me.

“From the lady at the end of the bar,” said the unapologetically gringo bartender. “Don Julio Real.” He set the bottle down on the bar, its slender neck rising above a wide, flat base of amber.

“Did you tell her what I was drinking?” I asked in a drunken slur.

The gringo raised a caterpillar eyebrow at me. “If you don't want it…”

“No,” I said, snatching the glass off the bar before it could be withdrawn. “Thank you.”

I looked down at my benefactor but she was busy tracing a finger along the rim of her glass, no trace of flirtation or even a smile on her face. Unseen, I toasted her with my glass chalice of tequila raised in the air and then took a long, deep sip of the liquor. It warmed me from the inside out, blooming heat filling my arms and legs and a delicate tingly wave washing over my scalp. Was this the real Real? It tasted different–stronger–and I glanced down at the bottle to see if the bartender had made a mistake.

The bottle was gone.

“Excuse me,” said a silken voice in my left ear.


Beta Male Blues

by M.L. Paige

All his life, Tyler thought he was an alpha male. Then he met Jenny.

It all started with Tyler’s search for a roommate for his rent stabilized prewar two-bedroom apartment off of Greenwich Street that had been grandfathered into him by a friend of a friend’s actual grandfather. The place was cavernous, with high ceilings, a dine-in kitchen, and a living room that rivaled the size of most studios–the kind of unrealistic New York apartment only seen on shows like “Friends” or “Felicity”. But for Tyler it was a reality, albeit not a free one, and when his previous roommate scored a research grant halfway across the globe Tyler was forced to search for someone who could not only foot their share of the rent but also keep the deal they were getting a secret.

Jenny was one of the first to respond to Tyler’s craigslist ad. They met for coffee one Tuesday afternoon to discuss specifics–Tyler never mentioned the apartment was rent stabilized until he’d met the prospective renter–and when Jenny arrived, Tyler instantly fell in love. With a waterfall of dark chestnut hair, honeyed skin, and a tall curvy frame, Jenny looked like an exquisite sculpture come to life, a Polynesian goddess made flesh who smelled of plumerias and didn’t so much as look at people as she did peer into them. From the moment they shook hands, Tyler felt that he could trust Jenny more than anyone else he’d ever met in his life.

“You know, you don’t look like a Jenny,” said Tyler, fumbling over his words.

“Neither do you,” Jenny said with a dazzling white grin. She squeezed Tyler’s hand and let a single finger graze the inside of his palm before she sat down. “I guess we’ll both just have to cope, won’t we?”

They chatted for almost a half hour before the apartment came up, Jenny eagerly sharing her upbringing in Maui and her trips around the world and her decision to come to New York to pursue Medicine. Then she peppered Tyler with questions, covering everything from his first pet to where he got the scar on his forearm to his favorite bars in NYC. Even though Tyler was sure Jenny had to be buttering him up–after all, for the price the apartment’s amenities were unbelievable–she really did seem curious about Tyler as a person. He figured she either had to be the greatest liar he’d ever met or just a naturally inquisitive person who genuinely cared about others.

“Okay,” said Tyler, taking advantage of a break in Jenny’s questions. “I’m just going to say it: I think you’re a great fit for the apartment. You don’t need to convince me any further.”

“Convince you?” asked Jenny, tilting her head to the side so that her hair spilled down one shoulder. “I thought we were just chatting. Honest.”

Tyler let loose a half-laugh. “Maybe it’s just the cynical New Yorker in me, but I figured you were, you know… working me or whatever.”

Jenny threw her head back and laughed, clapping her hands together. “Oh god, I’m sorry that’s too funny. The idea of me ‘working’ anyone…. Hah.” She lowered her gaze at Tyler, smiling. “Do you really think I’m a good fit for the apartment? I mean, I think we get along, but a lot of guys don’t like having female roommates.”

“You are a good fit and nah I don’t mind a female roommate at all,” said Tyler. “Actually I thought it was the reverse, that women don’t like male roommates.”

“Depends on the roommate,” mused Jenny. “No one likes a creeper, but you seem pretty normal.”

“‘Pretty normal’,” repeated Tyler. “Thanks.”

Jenny reached out and gently touched Tyler’s hand. “Hey,” she said. “It’s a compliment–seriously.”

“So,” Tyler said, trying to change the subject. “There’s just one other thing about the apartment I have to tell you.”

Tyler explained the rent stabilized situation to Jenny and she promised not to tell a soul, mentioning that friends of hers were in similar setups so she knew the importance of keeping things quiet. For his part, Tyler believed her–why would she lie?–and felt so comfortable with Jenny that he invited her to take a look at the apartment right that very moment. She agreed. The two wandered from the coffeeshop and resumed their earlier conversation, sharing bits and pieces of their lives as they walked and laughed and neared the apartment.

Upstairs in the unit itself Jenny was speechless. She followed behind Tyler as he gave her the full tour, showing off the things women seemed to love about the place: the classic fixtures, the antique crown molding, the art deco tiling in the bathroom. But where Jenny focused the most attention was on the bedroom that was to be hers. It was empty with a fresh coat of white paint, nearly two-thirds the size of Tyler’s room, and with just one window obscured by the apartment’s fire escape that also faced into the building’s inner courtyard.

A disappointed frown hung heavy on Jenny’s pouting lips.

“It’s nice,” she said, clearly unconvinced.

“Just so you know, I’ve prorated the rent to reflect the rooms,” said Tyler as he tried to ameliorate her concerns. “I know this room’s smaller than the master bedroom, but it’s definitely cheaper too.”

Jenny parroted him back: “The master bedroom. Do you think–” She paused and slipped into thought for a moment before continuing. “Is there any way I could rent that room instead?”

“You want the master bedroom?” asked an incredulous Tyler.

“I’ll pay the difference,” Jenny added.

Tyler sighed. He loved the idea of Jenny as a roommate but felt caught off guard by her request. “I’ve been in that room a long time…”

“What if I give you an extra 10%?” offered Jenny.

“Wow you really want that room,” Tyler said.

Jenny chewed on her bottom lip. “I know, I’m sorry. It’s just that I always had this specific vision for my time in New York. A prewar building, a big apartment, sunlight streaming through my bedroom windows in the morning… this place is so great and so are you Tyler, but the bedroom is just… I’m sorry, it just doesn’t do it for me. I understand if that’s a deal breaker for you.”

‘Hey now hold on,” said Tyler. “Are you serious that you’d really pay an extra 10%? You don’t even know what the rent on that room is.”

“I don’t care,” said Jenny. “This is my dream place, I’m willing to pay whatever I have to. Hell you could even lie to me about the rent if you wanted to and I’d have no idea.”

Tyler thought about it for a moment. He could lie to Jenny and make a couple hundred extra bucks a month; even just the normal rent with an extra 10% would nearly halve what he was currently paying. Or he could take a different tact. He could offer Jenny a fair 50/50 split, showing her the rent statement so she knew he wasn’t bullshitting her and say that it was his part in making her New York dreams come true. Not only would this make sure their time as roommates started off on a good foot–nothing was worse to Tyler than a contentious roommate situation–but Jenny might even show her gratitude in other ways, perhaps.

With a quick glance, Tyler sized Jenny up, his gaze tracing the outline of her breasts pushing against her white blouse and the blossomed swell of her hips in her painted-on indigo jeans. She gave a little stretch and as she did her blouse lifted the slightest bit, revealing the dark etchings of a tattoo that extended just above her waistline.

For fuck’s sake, thought Tyler as his cock stirred.


BROADLY: Understanding Sexual Pleasure Isn’t Just Fun—It’s Crucial

In "Unscrewing Ourselves," our first annual Sex Month on Broadly, we explore the state of sex ed today by highlighting the individuals and ideas changing our sexual health for the better. Read more from this series here.

Andrea Barrica grew up Catholic Filipino—meaning, she explains, the only sex education she received was being told not have sex before she got married.

"That was pretty much it," the 27-year-old tells Broadly. The message was that "all things that you do before marriage is a sin. I never learned about consent. The reason why I never learned about consent is, why was I even thinking about it? It was all or nothing. Whether you make out or go and have full-on intercourse, that's like, burning in hell."

The harmful effects of this fear-mongering, abstinence-only approach to sex ed made Barrica realize that sex positivity is crucial for effective sex ed. Motivated by this realization, Barrica and her team are launching O.School, an online platform powered by live streaming and live chat, this October. O.School aims to give people a safe space to learn about sexual pleasure, identity, and communication in bed.

"The vision is to become the most trusted place online to talk about sex, to solve intimate problems, and to explore your sexual identity," Barrica says. "That's really different from the fear-based stuff you get in school: 'Here's how you avoid getting pregnant; here's how you avoid getting an STI; this is menstruation; this is your body.' That's all really important, but that doesn't even begin to cover what learning about sex and pleasure is. The fact that we even talk about pleasure is something you probably wouldn't get outside of purely anatomically explanations in a science class."

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Understanding Sexual Pleasure Isn't Just Fun -- It's Crucial by Kimberly Lawson

October 4, 2017

TONIC: BSDM Can Provide Profound Healing Experiences

Cupcake Sinclair likes to be punished. As a professional submissive and fetish porn producer in Los Angeles, being tied up, spanked, and flogged is part of the job description. It's also what she does for fun. Last year, she became a somewhat of a FetLife celebrity when she produced and starred in a fetish video that depicts a man nailing her breasts to a wooden board as a punishment, aptly titled "Nailed."

"Yes, it's painful," she says. "Yes, there's screaming." The video is very real and undeniably unsettling for those not accustomed to watching a self-described "pain slut" have body parts nailed to a boar. But it's the product of Sinclair's literal "blood, sweat, and tears," she tells me, and she continues to recreate this scene for live audiences at local LA fetish clubs for fun—and as a form of therapy. Sinclair explains that extreme submission provides a release from the banality of boring, everyday vanilla living while also helping her preserve her mental health.

"So many of us shy away from pain. Being able to embrace it allows me personally to feel the catharsis I need, as well as to remind myself I'm stronger than any problems I might be going through. I've been in the lifestyle for about six years now and for me, it's therapeutic," Sinclair says. "I tend to develop a bit of a disconnect with my emotions, [and] by submitting and going through levels of pain and pleasure, I feel more honed in to reality. When submitting to someone I trust, I'm able to let go of my anxieties."


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BDSM Can Provide Profound Healing Experiences by Sofia Barrett-Ibarria

August 29, 2017

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HELLO GIGGLES: How I use BDSM to cope with my trauma from sexual assault

Every 98 seconds, an American becomes a survivor of sexual assault. In 2007, I was one of them. In the years that followed, I wasn’t able to acknowledge my experience as an assault. Of course, I noted it and remembered it, but did not dwell on the memory.

In 2009, I began to suffer from vaginismus, an involuntary muscle spasm that made sex painful, unavailable, and unimaginably oppressive. As a result, I began to write about women’s health and sexual wellness, but I didn’t connect my vaginismus to my assault as a teenager until much later. Once I made that rational realization, I dedicated my recovery to healing, repairing, and restoring my psyche.

Since April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, I hope to incorporate my writing as a form of constant resistance and recovery from my own sexual assault. I have found a safe space in the online community—I now use writing as coping, writing as rehabilitating, writing as reclaiming my identity. But that’s not the only thing I use to heal myself.

After leaving a toxic and abusive relationship earlier this year, I began to experiment with kink and BDSM. Whipping and slapping, dominance and submissiveness, power and control—these are all types of therapy for me. In a way, incorporating BDSM into my sexual experience itches a particular scratch. I am in control, and I dominate the situation.


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April 25, 2017

HELLO FLO: How Kinky Sex is Related to Happiness and Creativity

Rena McDaniel, a Chicago sexologist told Bustle that “Kinks, much like like sexual orientation and gender identity, are created through a complex interplay that research doesn’t fully understand of genetics, environment, and our experiences paired with sexually relevant contexts.” Where our kinks stem from cannot fully be explained. Why we are sexually aroused by a color, an action, a feeling, a situation, isn’t always so matter of fact — there isn’t a specific formula or explanation of certain kinks. What we can explain, however, is the way that these kinks make human beings feel.

Researchers at the Science of BDSM Research Team at Northern Illinois University worked with seven pairs of “switches,” a role where the individual is interested in both the top and bottom, the submissive and the dominant.

“Gentle touching and communication to striking, bondage and fetish dress,” were examples of the experimental scenes that 14 adults from the ages of 23 to 64 engaged in during the research. The participants were from the kink-focused network Fetlife  — think Facebook, but for kinksters.

The activities that the participants engaged in produced two types of altered states, as well as the reduction of psychological stress, the improvement of mood, and the increase of sexual arousal. In order to understand the levels of altered states, the participants were asked to give five saliva samples and complete three Stroop tests which involve words and colors before and after the experimental scenes.


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How Kinky Sex is Related to Happiness and Creativity by S. Nicole Lane

March 14, 2017

HUFFPOST: BDSM and Mental Health

In college, I read an article about Russian “whipping therapy.” At first I thought it was a joke—Siberian scientists were promoting flogging and caning as a “cure” for depression, addiction, and suicidal thoughts. Yet it still appears in occasional articles as a real, if controversial, treatment: 30 to 60 cane strokes or whip lashes administered to patients’ buttocks to promote serotonin flow. The treatment is not intended to be sexually stimulating for either the patient or the doctor.

When I first became active in the kink scene, I was in the middle of a major depressive episode. I’d known I was kinky long before I started showing symptoms of depression, so it wasn’t that I worried my depression was the result—or the cause—of my BDSM interest. But it made navigating my early years in the scene somewhat difficult.

Like many people with depression, I sometimes have trouble acknowledging that I’ve reached the point where I need help. It becomes hard to remember how my “normal” mind works, so I become convinced that I’ve always felt this way, thought this way, and that it’s a problem with my character, not my chemical makeup. But some part of me usually knows when things are getting bad, even if I don’t want to admit it.

I’m also what’s known in the BDSM world as a “pain slut”—a more affectionate, less DSM-5-y term for a masochist.

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BDSM and Mental Health by J.A. Rock

February 15, 2015, Updated February 15, 2017


AUTOSTRADDLE: Bottoms Up: Holistic Masochism

Three years ago, I was fresh from what was then the worst breakup of my life. I drank a lot, smoked even more and stopped going to school. I spent all day angry and sad and confused. I wanted to feel something else, so I sought out some play partners and had a super rough threesome. We crossed so many of my boundaries; going along with it was easier than saying the pain wasn’t good for me. And maybe, if something hurt more than the pain of my breakup, it would erase it and I could function again. But even though I let my body be used in a way I thought I wanted it to be used, and even though I had bruises for days, I didn’t feel any better. The physical pain was exactly what I wanted, but I also wanted it to erase my emotional pain, and it didn’t.

Last May, I finished a project I’d been working on for a very long time and rewarded myself with hand tattoos. I drafted them with the artist and sat very still as she began. The pain was exquisite: sharp, pointed, endorphin-laced. I left the tattoo parlor with sweet new body art and a clear head. It was like I’d been in a stuffy home heated by a radiator and had stepped outside into crisp winter air. My pain took me exactly where I wanted to go.

Ignoring my limits is different from pushing them. Pushing my limits is a fun challenge; ignoring them can force my play out of the realm of play and into dangerous territory. For me as a masochist, there’s a thin line between (intentional, safe, risk-aware) self-hurt and (risky, non-negotiated) self-harm. Assuming I take care to play with safe tops and dominants, I become the greatest risk to myself if I’m not thinking about masochism holistically.


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Bottoms Up: Holistic Masochism by Al(aina)

December 13, 2016


VIBE: Would You Try BDSM If It Involved Spiritual Healing?

When it comes to the topic of BDSM, the topic is still relatively taboo. BDSM practices as a form of alternative sexuality is often stigmatized as deviant, unhealthy, and sensationalized (particularly with the campy novel and 2015 film release of E.L. James’s 50 Shades of Grey) instead of being viewed as healing force that improves relationships. In a new insightful piece in Broadly, kinksters share their passion for blending energy work with BDSM practices, offering wonderful benefits for monogamous and vanilla sex lovers.

25-year old Healah Lee, an Aniwodi Cherokee, who has spent over a decade doing healing spiritual work, agrees. “We’re naturally connected to an energy outlet. We come from a source that we have forgotten,” she explains. Energy work and BDSM are naturally compatible, in that “they connect people…to many kinsters, BDSM and energy work seem like a natural pairing.”

“When one is close to climax, you pull the energy from your sacral chakra up to your heart center, then you make the effort to move the energy out from your heart, around your body, up over your head, and encompassing your partner’s crown, third eye and throat chakras, and then back into their heart and down into their sacral and root chakras. This permits one to energetically, on top of physically, share an orgasm.”

Victrix Oracle, who is a self-proclaimed Goddess Witch in Quebec, performs the following process during BDSM activities, which is termed ankhing, an ancient Egyptian principle that helps bring vitality and strength within a relationship. As a reiki master, clairvoyant, empath, and healer, Victrix maintains that BDSM perfectly coincides with spiritual oneness with a partner, and brings enlightenment.


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Would You Try BDSM If It Involved Spiritual Healing? by Shanna Collins

September 21, 2016

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