Do chains and whips excite you? How about clear lines of communication? Before you spend your last months of quarantine building a sex dungeon in your basement, try scheduling a virtual appointment with a professional dominatrix, submissive, or kink-friendly therapist to truly prep yourself for your journey into BDSM.

In order to do some of the homework for you, Bustle’s sex and relationships editor, Iman Hariri-Kia, chatted with professional dominatrix Danielle Blunt to get the real first tips for starting BDSM.

What is BDSM?

BDSM is a portmanteau that can be interpreted a few ways, but Blunt defines it as “bondage and discipline, dominant submission, sadism, and masochism.”

Where do I start?

Education and community are the most important aspects for anyone who participates in BDSM, but especially for beginners. Blunt suggests following professional subs and dommes (and tipping them for their content) to explore what you like and reading websites like KinkOutEvents for educational programming and finding community.

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