Despite what Fifty Shades might suggest, kink isn’t about coercion but consent, if pain is involved it is eagerly asked for and given with pleasure, you don’t have to be a billionaire to play — and, perhaps most importantly, it isn’t inherently patriarchal by any means.

So if you’re curious about kink, the best place to go for introductory tips would be the kink community itself — not a Rihanna music video. I caught up with New York City dominatrixes Dia Dynasty and Lucy Sweetkill, the owners and proprietesses of femme domme dungeon La Maison Du Rouge who are dedicated to sharing their conscious kink with the world.

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How To Start Exploring BDSM With A Partner, According To The Dominatrix Duo At La Maison Du Rouge by Kristen Sollee
Bustle, February 16, 2017