ELIGIBLE: Healing Through BDSM “Sex Play”

BDSM is a blanket term that covers a wide variety of “sex play” including bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism; however it also encompasses fetishes and kink…


THE ROOT: Decriminalizing Sex Work Makes the Entire Black Community Safer

I came out rather late, while I was serving in the military, hundreds of miles away from my parents, siblings and children. I was stationed in Fort Myers, Virginia, and I worked part-time in…


PSYCHOLOGY TODAY: A Loving Introduction to BDSM

In the child’s game, Trust Me, one person stands behind the other. The one in front falls backward, trusting the other to catch them before crashing to the floor. Trust Me contains an element of…


PSYCHOLOGY TODAY: BDSM as Harm Reduction

As I've written about numerous times, I am a strong believer that when it comes to sexuality, the field of psychotherapy is moving away from a more authoritarian top-down lens (and I would consider…


THE ATLANTIC: That Time I Tried BDSM Therapy

Whips, chains, collars, gags, blindfolds, handcuffs, knives… My eyes roam the soundproof room in which we are enclosed. The subject of our conversation is BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and…


BITCH MEDIA: What Do We Do with “Good Boys?”

Discussing dating in the digital age is nothing new. Between endless dating apps and words like ghosting, orbiting, and breadcrumbing popping up left and right, dating just doesn’t make sense right…


BITCH MEDIA: Adopting Hoe Aesthetics Requires ACTUALLY Supporting Sex Workers

I recently hosted an all-girls yacht day where most of the attendants were Sex Workers. As we exited the boat, drunk and sore from twerking, I overheard something that moved me: “It was so nice to be…


WASHINGTON BLADE: LGBT advocates join fight for sex workers’ rights at Sexual Freedom Summit

D.C. Council member David Grosso (I-At-Large) and lesbian rights advocates Kate Kendall of San Francisco and Nadine Smith of Florida expressed support for the nationwide effort to decriminalize sex…


PGH CITY PAPER: Like Many BDSM Practitioners, Financial Submissives Eroticize Giving Up Control

My first encounter with financial domination came by way of an instant message on the phone sex platform where I work. A new client introduced himself, asked if he could call me Mistress, and told me…


VICE: Sanders and Warren Left Sex Workers Out of Their Criminal Justice Plans

Some sex workers and their allies are feeling left behind by Vermont Senator Bernie Sanders and Massachusetts Senator Elizabeth Warren, who have both unveiled wide-reaching policy platforms on…