THE NY TIMES: The Boundary Between Abuse and B.D.S.M.

“You want to make sure that you narrate what is going to be happening,” a blond woman in a skintight nurse’s costume said. She had just demonstrated how to safely, and consensually, stick a willing…


BROADLY: We Must Repeal SESTA, a Deadly Law That Does Nothing to Help Trafficking Victims

Earlier this year, Congress passed a deeply irresponsible and dangerous bill known as SESTA/FOSTA, which Donald Trump promptly signed into law. Proponents of the bill hoped SESTA/FOSTA would hold sex…


OUT: Mercy Mistress Explores the Crossroads of BDSM & Asian Femininity

The acronym BDSM is powerful in its ability to convey vivid thoughts and imagery. The practice, being as intimate and sensory-driven as it is, can bring to mind visions of handcuffs, whips, leather,…


THE NEW YORKER: The Rage of the Incels

 Lately I have been thinking about one of the first things that I ever wrote for the Internet: a series of interviews with adult virgins, published by the Hairpin. I knew my first subject personally,…


TITS AND SASS: A guide to hustling on Craiglist without the Personals

To the readers of this post, let me say first: I’m sorry, and I sympathize. I’m displaced and down in the trenches with you. I’m a ‘lower-end’ full-service and fetish worker. My way of life got taken…


VOCATIV: After Backpage: Cash-Strapped Sex Workers Take Care of Their Own

Last month, Jane Woolf, a 35-year-old sex worker based in Western Massachusetts, was down to 41 cents in her bank account, relying on an upcoming appointment to make ends meet. Then her client, who…


INTO: Queer Pro Dom Yin Q On Consent, BDSM, and Telling Their Story in 'Mercy Mistress'

Yin Q takes their work home with them. The professional dominatrix (or "pro dom") says they live the BDSM lifestyle because it runs in their blood. "I rarely date people who don’t mix kink into their…


BUSINESS INSIDER: How to be powerful and successful, according to a former dominatrix

Being a dominatrix is a job that involves a surprising power paradox: you're the employee, yet you're also the one who's calling the shots over a submissive client. It's you holding up the whips and…


ROLLING STONE: How a New Senate Bill Will Screw Over Sex Workers

If SESTA becomes law, victims of human trafficking will be able to sue the websites their abusers may have used to communicate with one another. The implications reach beyond justice for survivors,…


TITS AND SASS: Post-SESTA/FOSTA Self-Censoring

In the immediate aftermath of SESTA/FOSTA passing, before it’s even been signed into law, we’re already seeing discussion of sex work on the internet hit. Some companies, like Patreon, seem to have…