THE DAILY DOT: What it really means to be in a dominant/submissive relationship

When it comes to understanding BDSM, non-practitioners generally equate the kinky lifestyle with the chains, ropes, whips, and handcuffs found in Christian Grey’s “red room of pain” in Fifty Shades…


BITCH MEDIA: HOW TO SUPPORT TRANS, INTERSEX, AND NONBINARY FOLKS IN THIS NIGHTMARISH HELLSCAPE

On October 21, the New York Times outlined the Trump administration’s latest attempt to redefine gender as “a biological, immutable condition determined by genitalia at birth.” The memo was…


AWT: The Feminist’s Guide to Sex Toys

I did not own a sex toy until I was in my late twenties. By that point, I’d had multiple sexual partners and a few meaningful long-term relationships. I had already moved countries, adapted to…


NEXTCITY: How Sex Workers Made San Francisco Safer for Everyone

San Francisco has a unique city department that most cities don’t have: the Department on the Status of Women. This department works to ensure that women and girls in the community have equal…


EFF: Blunt Policies and Secretive Enforcement Mechanisms: LGBTQ+ and Sexual Health on the Corporate Web

The free and open Internet has enabled disparate communities to come together across miles and borders, and empowered marginalized communities to share stories, art, and information with one another…


HUFFPOST: How To Help Trans, Nonbinary Communities Amid Reported Trump Policy Plans

 The Trump administration is working on a plan to severely narrow the legal definition of gender, according to a report in The New York Times on Sunday. The proposed policy, according to the…


HUFFPOST: Why I’m Proud To Be A Middle-Aged Stripper

Bourbon Street’s gelatinous humidity had just tipped over into rain when a 50-something white man walked in to Larry Flynt’s Hustler Club. I was spread eagle on cold marble before a sparse,…


FORBES: Would 'Deviant' Sex Robots Violate Asimov's Law of Robotics?

Like it or not, sex robots are already here, and someday they might hurt you, if you ask nicely.  As they cater to an ever-increasing range of tastes, some folks predict BDSM types (bondage,…


THE GUARDIAN: 'It absolutely should be seen as rape': when sex workers are conned

The texts trigged no alarm bells for Gabrielle (name has been changed), a Brisbane sex worker. Her new client seemed nervous, even afraid, but he didn’t seem dangerous. “He was saying, ‘oh I’m…


PSYCHCENTRAL: Could Kinky Sex Improve Your Relationship?

What does the term BDSM conjure up for you? Whips and chains? Weird people in masks in dark basements? Although the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy has enjoyed blockbuster success and helped to bring…