HUFFPOST: Dear White Guys - Your Asian Fetish is Showing

Lillian, a 20-something who lives in New York and Boston, is a single Asian American woman who actively dates. Needless to say, her Tinder inbox is a hot mess. There are the inevitable “What is…


PSYCHOLOGY TODAY: Sexual Satisfaction in BDSM

BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance/submission, sadism-masochism) seems to be a topic of immense fascination for laypeople and social scientists alike. Although in the past the practice has been…


AUTOSTRADDLE: View From The Top: From Physical to Psychological

Three things. Three little things brought our play from “what kind of things do you want to play with” to “I like sex that is kind of, you know… rough” to “what have you always wanted to do, but…


AUTOSTRADDLE: Bottoms Up: Denial

Ellie and I had been playing together consistently for months, and I trusted her enough that, one evening, I told her we didn’t need to check in as often during sex. I wanted her to do something new…


AUTOSTRADDLE: A Balance In Subspace

I always looked for opportunities to transcend myself and become another being. But I only began to toy with the intricacies of submission recently, when reading smut on my phone when I got some…


AUTOSTRADDLE: I’m a Submissive Brat and No, That’s Not a Contradiction

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a brat. When I was young, toddler-age, it was seen as an adorable quirk. Who knew such a little girl could be so stubborn and strong-willed? As I got older, I…


HUFF POST: This Is What My Life Is Like As The Highest Earning Legal Sex Worker In The U.S.

I describe myself as the country’s highest-earning worker in the world’s oldest profession, by which I mean I make more than any other sex worker at any legal brothel in the U.S. Cue the raised…


ALLURE: A Beginner's Guide to Balloon Fetishes, Straight From an Actual Looner

What comes to mind when you hear the word "balloon"? Perhaps it's a birthday party or dance floor filled with balloons, the movie It, or a memory from a childhood birthday party, or maybe you noticed…


THE BIG ISSUE: Nurses to campaign for the decriminalisation of sex work

The UK’s biggest nursing union will lobby ministers to decriminalise sex work after a landmark motion was passed by a huge majority at its annual conference. Louise Cahill, the nurse specialist in…


WEAR YOUR VOICE: Black and Brown Sex Workers Keep Getting Pushed to the Margins

Incel is such a strange word to me. It’s not a term I use often. Like, “cock” and “cuck,” the word incel conjures up a “lone wolf” white boy who sits on 4chan counting his colored and gendered…