THE WEEK: The female price of male pleasure

The world is disturbingly comfortable with the fact that women sometimes leave a sexual encounter in tears. When Babe.net published a pseudonymous woman's account of a difficult encounter with Aziz…


NYT: Here’s How to Deal With Men (Thwack!)

“So you like breaking rules, do you?” Kasia Urbaniak said to the bald man seated before her. “Or do you like getting in trouble? That’s pretty greedy of you, to come here and do something right…


BUZZFEED: Want To Learn About Boundaries And Consent? Listen To Sex Workers.

Opinion: Their work demands the constant creation and affirmation of sexual limits in a professional setting — something most people clearly struggle with. There’s a group of people who are uniquely…


BROADLY: A 'Lifestyle Slave' Is More Than a Sub Who Does All Your Chores for Free

The dynamic between a dominatrix and her 24/7 sub can be one of tender, mutual support. When I was in my mid-twenties, I was a dominatrix for a couple of years. I moved to New York at the age of 24…


GO MAG: Kink And Trust - How Some Trauma Survivors Find Healing Through BDSM

As a survivor of sexual violence, I’ve found that exploring my kinks with partners I trust is a truly cathartic experience. It gives me a chance to reclaim my body as a source of…


BROADLY: Understanding Sexual Pleasure Isn’t Just Fun—It’s Crucial

In "Unscrewing Ourselves," our first annual Sex Month on Broadly, we explore the state of sex ed today by highlighting the individuals and ideas changing our sexual health for the better. Read more…


TONIC: BSDM Can Provide Profound Healing Experiences

Cupcake Sinclair likes to be punished. As a professional submissive and fetish porn producer in Los Angeles, being tied up, spanked, and flogged is part of the job description. It's also what she…


HELLO GIGGLES: How I use BDSM to cope with my trauma from sexual assault

Every 98 seconds, an American becomes a survivor of sexual assault. In 2007, I was one of them. In the years that followed, I wasn’t able to acknowledge my experience as an assault. Of course, I…


HELLO FLO: How Kinky Sex is Related to Happiness and Creativity

Rena McDaniel, a Chicago sexologist told Bustle that “Kinks, much like like sexual orientation and gender identity, are created through a complex interplay that research doesn’t fully understand of…


HUFFPOST: BDSM and Mental Health

In college, I read an article about Russian “whipping therapy.” At first I thought it was a joke—Siberian scientists were promoting flogging and caning as a “cure” for depression, addiction, and…