Yesterday, as happens often, someone wrote a tweet which sent the internet into meltdown. A list of statements about Pride, it began so promisingly:

“1. large corporations just want your money” – Well, quite!

Eagerly anticipating the serving of more scalding hot tea, I read on:

“2. Lesbian exclusion is ugly. 3. Trans woc are the ones that lead the fight for our rights” – by this point, I was punching the air and cheering in agreement. But then… instead of being served more tea, I found myself spitting out my own, all over my laptop:

“4. Please don’t bring your k*nks/fet*shes to pride, there are minors @ pride and this can sexualise the event”.

It’s worth saying that the person who wrote this tweet seems well-intentioned, as proven by their previous three excellent points, and attacking them personally would be both unkind and pointless. But the attitude the tweet embodies is worthy of critique, and I’d like to unpack the ideas being suggested: that children need to be protected from displays of kink (whether that’s rubber, leather, BDSM, animal roleplay… I could go on), and that Pride shouldn’t be sexualised.

In the furore which followed this tweet going viral (at the time of writing, it has been liked a disturbing 30,000 times), many people suggested in response that children shouldn’t even be at Pride in the first place. Others argued, more mildly, that the essence of Pride shouldn’t have to change to accommodate them. I’m sympathetic to the latter point, but a ‘no kids at Pride!’ rule risks excluding queer parents who can’t afford childcare, the children of queer parents (who have every right to celebrate their own families), and the many children who will grow up to be queer themselves, and are perhaps beginning to realise this themselves.

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Why it’s bizarre to try to ban kinks and fetishes at Pride by James Greig

May 29th, 2019