Yin Q takes their work home with them.

The professional dominatrix (or “pro dom”) says they live the BDSM lifestyle because it runs in their blood.

“I rarely date people who don’t mix kink into their sex lives as well as rituals and power dynamic rituals,” the New York-based Q tells INTO. “So any kind of kink–whether it’s power dynamic rituals or sadomasochism or bondage–I love all of it. But it’s also deeply part of my spiritual life, in terms of really finding grounding within those rituals—whether it’s bondage, going into like a meditative bondage or guiding people—because I also get that energy exchange from being a top.”

As a queer Asian American sex worker, Q’s story is vastly different from the typical narrative of any of the media based on the many community’s they’re a part of. While BDSM is surely enjoyed by LGBTQs, but when it comes to paying clients, they still tend to be wealthy white cis men.

“I feel like BDSM, to me, is very much is a queer, magical space—there’s a lot of fluidity,” Q says. “But being a pro dom in the heteronormative world of clients, I would say there is a very hetero or seemingly hetero world where there’s this—within the sex industry especially—[dynamic between] male clients and very femme doms.” Largely, they acknowledge, because of the former’s economic advantage.

 

Read the full article:

Yin Q on Consent, BDSM, and Telling their Story in ‘Mercy Mistress’ by Trish Bendix

Into – April 19, 2018